DisclaimerEverything in this site is a personal philosophy and should not be regarded in any way as professional or therapeutic advice. It's simply a site with a few ideas.
About this book
Happiness is not about positive thinking, spirituality, random acts of kindness, or even love and compassion. It’s about satisfying long-term, ongoing innate needs.
Who is this book for?
If you are young, this book is for you. It’s to tell you things I wish I had been told when I was young.
What is happiness?
SECTION 1. THE NEED TO FEEL SAFE
1. What are you feeling?
- What are you thinking? What are you feeling?
- Label it. And be specific!
- Distinguish between your thoughts and feelings.
- What presses your button?
- Don’t talk like a zombie
- Charlotte and the Creatures of the Dark Forest
- Ignore the dills in the peanut gallery
- The Adventures of Sir Thrustalot.
- Find the hidden thoughts.
2. Emotional beliefs
3. Be angry.
4. Be vulnerable.
5. Reduce the intensity of an unwanted emotion
6. Unwanted thoughts.
Author Archives: Mr Bashful
Nephew: I disagree with you. Uncle: What? Why? I haven’t said anything! You just got here! Nephew: You said we need to develop the feeling that whatever happens, we will handle it. That’s rubbish. Our neighbour, Mr Flan, was super … Continue reading
Nephew: You say we need to be aware of what we are feeling? Aren’t we already? Uncle: Many people aren’t. Some people try to be always rational, and lose touch with what they are feeling. Others focus on what they … Continue reading
Nephew: You said one way to become aware of what we are feeling is to label our emotions. To that I replied, ‘Give them name tags?” and you agreed! What the hell are you talking about? Uncle: Recently I invited … Continue reading
Uncle: How do you feel about circus lions being kept in cages? Nephew: It’s cruel. It’s wrong. It shouldn’t be allowed. Uncle: Wrong answer. Nephew: Huh? Why? Uncle: How do you feel about your basketball team losing yesterday? Nephew: We … Continue reading
Uncle: I once asked an acquaintance . . . let’s call him ‘Oscar’. . . Nephew: No, let’s call him R2D2. Uncle: Shut up. I once asked Oscarhow he felt about losing custody of his dog. He shrugged and replied, … Continue reading