Myth: “We can make ourselves happier by adopting positive thinking.”
Part 1. It seems self evident, doesn’t it? But let’s look a little deeper . . .
Part 2. Is someone ill? Don’t tell them to take a positive attitude, will you?
Myth: “We need money to be happy.”
This is one of the first myths the happiness experts like to dispel. Now it’s Mr Bashful’s turn, but he promises to not use statistics.
Here are the fallacious reasons why people believe money does bring happiness:
(i) “We need money to provide food and shelter, so money can provide happiness. (That’s the claim, but it’s wrong.)
(ii) “Retail therapy does make a person feel better.”
(iii) “We require a reasonable standard of living to be happy. A person living in a mansion will be happier than someone living in a chook shed, surely?” (No, wrong again.)
(iv) “Money provides financial security, and will therefore make us happier.” (No. Only one thing will give you financial security, and it’s not wealth.)
(v) “People respect wealth. Being respected by others can make us feel secure, and happy.” (No, think again.)
(vi) “Money allows us to flourish. If I have enough money to follow my heart, and become happier, doesn’t that mean money can bring happiness? And if I am able to enjoy the best the world can offer, surely I would be happier?” (No, but good try.)
(viii) “Accumulating money is innate. Therefore, the more we accumulate, the more we satisfy that need, and are happier.” (No, not even close.)
Myth: “Being kind will bring happiness.”
We hear so much about ‘being kind‘ and ‘random acts of kindness‘. Yes, they have a lot going for them, but click here to see why we need neither to have core happiness.
Myth: “We need to suffer.”
That belief has been around for centuries, and has helped countless people give meaning to their suffering. But is it a key to core happiness? No. Click here to see why.
Myth: “We need to fulfil our potential to be truly happy.”
The New-age gurus who spout this fallacy also tell us to accept ourselves for who we are. Get some consistency, guys. Here is why it’s not true.
Myth: “Good health brings happiness.”
It is often said that good health is the most important thing a person can have. (‘Happiness’ or ‘self-esteem’ aren’t as important, apparently.) But let’s establish one thing: Good health does not bring happiness.
Myth: “We are happier having only a few possessions.”
Consumerism is often criticised, for good reasons. But we can be as happy having many possessions as having a few. Read why.
Myth: “Wisdom brings happiness.”
No, it doesn’t. Nice idea, though.
Myth: “We need good, close relationships to be happy.”
The ‘experts’ are almost unanimous about that one. It’s a shame they’re wrong. If they were to spread their gaze just a little farther . . .
Myth: “We need love in our lives to be happy.”
Well, according to Hollywood we do. And pop songs. And the Christian religion. And heaps of happiness ‘experts’. Even by our own experiences it is hard to believe that this is a myth. But there you go.
Myth: “We need to love someone or something to be happy.”
This myth isn’t as hackneyed as the previous one, but it’s a myth all the same.
Myth: “We can choose to be happy.” Of course we can’t, and not only is it naive and simplistic to suggest we can, it’s unfair. Click here to read why.