DisclaimerEverything in this site is a personal philosophy and should not be regarded in any way as professional or therapeutic advice. It's simply a site with a few ideas.
About this book
Happiness is not about positive thinking, spirituality, random acts of kindness, or even love and compassion. It’s about satisfying long-term, ongoing innate needs.
Who is this book for?
If you are young, this book is for you. It’s to tell you things I wish I had been told when I was young.
What is happiness?
SECTION 1. THE NEED TO FEEL SAFE
1. What are you feeling?
- What are you thinking? What are you feeling?
- Label it. And be specific!
- Distinguish between your thoughts and feelings.
- What presses your button?
- Don’t talk like a zombie
- Charlotte and the Creatures of the Dark Forest
- Ignore the dills in the peanut gallery
- The Adventures of Sir Thrustalot.
- Find the hidden concerns.
2. Emotional beliefs
3. Be angry.
4. Be vulnerable.
5. Reduce the intensity of an unwanted emotion
6. Unwanted thoughts.
7. To become an adult
8. Feel invincible.
SECTION 2. THE DEEP NEED TO BELONG
Author Archives: Mr Bashful
Nephew: Are you happy? Uncle: Yep. Nephew: I guess you have close relationships? Uncle: No. I have no close friends or relatives. Nephew: What do you call me, then? Uncle: A nuisance. Nephew: You can’t be happy. The happiness experts … Continue reading
Nephew: You said core happiness comes from satisfying long-term, ongoing innate needs. What did you mean? Uncle: Do you know how natural selection works? Nephew: Sort of. Uncle: Do you know why poo smells so bad? Nephew: My poos don’t … Continue reading
Nephew: Okay, I understand how natural selection works. I ask again: you said core happiness comes from satisfying long-term, ongoing innate needs. What did you mean? Uncle: First let me say that it is hard to speak of evolution without … Continue reading
Nephew: Last night Dad warned me about seeking happiness. He reckons, ‘Who wants to be a grinning idiot with no real substance?’ Does he have a point? Uncle: As I have said, being happy is not about being a grinning … Continue reading
Nephew: How do you know so much about happiness? Correction: what makes you think you know so much about happiness? Uncle: There are different types of researchers into happiness. Nephew: You’re the one I’m asking about. Uncle: There are the researchers … Continue reading
Nephew: You reckon that if we want to add to our core happiness we need to satisfy our innate need to feel safe. Uncle: You’ve been listening? Nephew: I managed to stay awake at that part. But we feel safe … Continue reading