Author Archives: Mr Bashful

The Umpteen Keys to Resilience

In a nutshell: we evolved the feeling of happiness. It’s our reward for satisfying innate needs. If we fail to satisfy those innate needs we feel unhappy. Therefore, let’s identify those innate needs and make sure we’re satisfying them. The … Continue reading

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If you are a young adult, in your teens or early twenties, this book is for you. It’s you I want to help. I want you to know things I wish I had known when I was your age. I … Continue reading

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Why did I write this book?

When I was a child my father would tell me I was lucky to have a life. That puzzled me, because whenever I asked myself ‘Are you glad you were born?’ my answer was invariably ‘No.’ I believed my father … Continue reading

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Can this book help people suffering depression?

If my sister Jane were alive today I could not heal her. Depression is not simply a lack of happiness; it’s a complex illness that comes in many forms, and needs professional treatment. I have no evidence to suggest that … Continue reading

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What is happiness?

Being happy is not about living ‘life’s spectacular journey’, as some happiness experts attest. Nor is it about avoiding pain. A happy person feels all the dark emotions: anger, fear, sadness, grief . . . but isn’t broken by them. … Continue reading

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Let’s define evolution.

It is hard to speak of evolution without inadvertently attributing to it intent. I might say, ‘beetles evolved to fly’, which sounds like the beetles had a choice in the matter. Of course they didn’t. Or I might say, ‘evolution … Continue reading

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Part 1. The innate need to be resilient.

First, we need to look at how happiness evolved. The evolution of temporary happiness (pleasure)
 When we engage in short-term behaviours that benefit us or our species, such as eating, having sex or playing (playing is good for us because … Continue reading

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