DisclaimerEverything in this site is a personal philosophy and should not be regarded in any way as professional or therapeutic advice. It's simply a site with a few ideas.
About this book
Happiness is not about positive thinking, spirituality, random acts of kindness, or even love and compassion. It’s about satisfying long-term, ongoing innate needs.
Who is this book for?
If you are young, this book is for you. It’s to tell you things I wish I had been told when I was young.
What is happiness?
SECTION 1. THE NEED TO FEEL SAFE
1. What are you feeling?
- What are you thinking? What are you feeling?
- Label it. And be specific!
- Distinguish between your thoughts and feelings.
- What presses your button?
- Don’t talk like a zombie
- Charlotte and the Creatures of the Dark Forest
- Ignore the dills in the peanut gallery
- The Adventures of Sir Thrustalot.
- Find the hidden thoughts.
2. Emotional beliefs
3. Be angry.
4. Be vulnerable.
5. Reduce the intensity of an unwanted emotion
6. Unwanted thoughts.
Author Archives: Mr Bashful
Uncle: A century ago, theatre audiences were noisy. If the entertainment was deemed poor the patrons would express their displeasure by heckling, or by throwing peanuts at the actors. The biggest nuisances were the less sophisticated patrons sitting in the … Continue reading
Uncle: Here is an old Scottish fable I made up. Nephew: Oh. Great. Uncle: One day, centuries ago, in the days of knights and damsels, Sir Thrustalot slew two knights and a dragon before Happy Hour. To celebrate, he and … Continue reading
Uncle: Occasionally I toss and turn in bed, unable to get to sleep. I make a list in my head of each and every one of my concerns: my health, the odd jobs to be done, the project I keep … Continue reading
Uncle: Water diviners believe that if they hold a switch a certain way . . . Nephew: What’s a switch? Uncle: A flexible shoot cut from a tree. They believe . . . Nephew: What’s a water diviner? Uncle: For … Continue reading
Nephew: I have a friend who keeps telling me what I ought to do. I find her behaviour irritating. Uncle: Your friend assumes she knows what is best for you because she bases her opinion on what she values in life, … Continue reading
Uncle: The last time we spoke I said we should . . . I suggested we drop our shoulds, oughts and musts of other people and replace those words with suggestions or preferences. I said the sooner we realise people value … Continue reading