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The Tyranny of the Should – our expectations of the world.

In the sentence, ‘I should study if I want to pass the test.’ the word ‘should’ is appropriate. It’s commonsense. However, we sometimes we adopt beliefs based not on common sense, but on values, and those beliefs can be unhelpful. In … Continue reading

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The Tyranny of the Should – our expectations of ourselves.

This chapter is also based on Karen Horney’s ‘Tyranny of the Should’. In the last chapter I suggested we drop our ‘shoulds’, ‘oughts’ and ‘musts’ of other people, and replace those words with suggestions or preferences. I said the sooner we … Continue reading

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