‘Mr Bashful, is loving someone a key to core happiness?’
No. Let’s say you love someone but the other person isn’t aware of how you feel, and barely knows you even exist. How would you feel?
Or let’s say the other person is aware that you love them, but thinks you’re a creep. How would you feel?
‘Again, pretty ordinary.’
We only enjoy the love we give when it’s reciprocated. That’s why we have dogs for pets instead of beetles. Loving someone, or a pet, is not enough. We need to be loved in return to gain a benefit.
‘So, we don’t need love to be happy?’
‘We just need to be loved?’
No, that’s not right either. See the ‘myth‘ about that.
Loving someone (and being loved in return) will provide a feeling of connectedness, and of feeling valued, (both keys to core happiness). But there are other ways to satisfy those innate needs. Loving someone (and being loved in return) is just one way to satisfy those needs.
Q. ‘I’d love my son even if he didn’t love me.’
Even so, you wouldn’t be feeling inner peace if every day he cursed you and the ground you stood on, no matter how much you loved him.